Friday, 24 March 2017

Walter White | Obituary

aka "Heisenberg" 52, of Alberquerque, died Sunday after a battle with lung cancer, and a gunshot wound. A co-founder of Gray Matter, White was a research chemist who taught high school chemistry, and later founded a meth manufacturing empire.   He is survived by his wife, Skyler Lambert; son Walter "Flynn" Junior and daughter Holly.

A private memorial was held by his family and officiated by Jo Bloggs | Funeral Celebrant. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to a drug abuse prevention charity called Blue Sky. he will be greatly missed.

Wednesday, 14 September 2016

New Training Course | End of Life Doula | Trial Offer

As many of you will be aware, since the Ideal Death Show in 2015 we have been looking to develop our own End of Life Doula course in order to offer training to those who wish to support individuals at the end of their life.

We intend to officially launch the course early in the first quarter of 2017. The cost of the course has yet to be finalised but is expected to be comparable to our Diploma in Family & Funeral Celebrancy (Group Training Course)

It is anticipated that the End of Life Doula Course will be delivered in several locations around the UK / British Isles

The Course Leader will be Chele Lawrence who, as well as being one of us, has extensive experience in developing, drafting and delivering specialist training for Macmillan , Marie Curie and British Red Cross amongst many others.

End of Life Doula Training | Trial Offer

We are aware that many of our members have expressed an interest in this training. Although we believe the training is ready to go - we would like to complete a final trial on the course in order to dot any "i's" and cross any "t's" requiring attention.

To this end we are offering the End of Life Doula Training on a first come, first served basis to just Six (6) UKSOC Members Only for £275 each - inclusive of training, all materials and lunches. 

The Trial will take place in Whitstable, Kent 

Part 1 on 15 -16 October 2016

Part 2 on 12 -13 November 2016

To register your interest or speak to Chele - feel free to drop her a line at or send her a message via the UKSOC Celebrants Facebook Group.

To book, please complete the contact form to your right using your UKSOC Email address and an invoice will be forwarded to you.

So, what's involved?

Course Outline

The face to face course is made up of four days delivered in two sections and on the completion of each section participants will be requested to complete a portfolio and learning journal.

Day one of the course, which establishes the culture with its shared and experimental learning style, focuses on the role of the End of Life Doula, the importance of good communication in relation to identifying client’s needs, the principles of effective listening and responding, information giving and obtaining when supporting people at the end of their life.

Day two is a natural progression from day one as it builds on the skills and knowledge gained previously. It is not about turning individuals into trained counsellors but identifies that some skills counsellors use can help individuals to become better emotional and practical supporters.

For anyone working in the area of end of life it is important to understand how people are affected by death. The focus of day three is to understand the meaning and experience of loss and bereavement and its impact on others. We look at bereavement theories and rituals and participants are encouraged to explore their own experience in relation to loss and bereavement in order to gain an understanding of how to respond and support others.

Attention on day four is given to the personal impact of supporting end of life clients and the importance of self-care. Participants are shown how to help a client develop a plan enabling them to live and die in the place and manner of their choosing. Finally we cover some of the legal implications of being an End of Life Doula.

Many aspects of the course focus on self-awareness. Self-awareness involves being conscious of who you are and how you will react in certain situations which is very important as a supporter for end of life clients. Knowing how you react enables you to develop strategies of support.

Participants attending the course are asked to attend all four days teaching which are delivered over two months. Each day commences at 9.30 am and concludes at 5.00pm.

Time is given at the end of each two day session to focus on what participants need to do to complete their portfolios and learning journals. One month is given to complete the relevant work.

As participants progress through the programme they will gain useful skills and discover strengths which will help them feel confident in their abilities.

Tuesday, 31 May 2016

Funeral Celebrant | The Role

As more people are choosing non religious funerals, there is a demand for the services of funeral Celebrants to write and perform life centred goodbye ceremonies. We all have different beliefs and styles; but all reputable and professionally trained Celebrants have the same role in helping families say goodbye.
The role of the funeral Celebrant is one of involvement with the family of the deceased, which starts from the first contact via phone with a family. We arrange to go to the home of the widow, widower or deceased’s family to gather information about them to start to build a ceremony based on their life, loves and achievements.
Meeting families can be a new experience for them. Families have told us they aren't sure how to act or what to say when they meet us. This is usually due to not having any experience of being involved with a Celebrant. We always greet families with a reassuring smile, a hand shake and some light hearted conversation. The handshake evolves into a hug towards the end of the meeting and we always reassure them that we are here to help them.
We always ask to see a recent picture of the deceased so we have the image of their face in our head for the entire meeting. The ceremony is about them, and they are the main focus of ceremony. Finding out stories, memories, employment, family, likes, dislikes, habits, hobbies, musical tastes and other personal information is just the beginning part of creating a ceremony.
Informing a family who have said their loved one loved Bob Dylan or The Rolling Stones that music played at the funeral ceremony can be from those artists, is beneficial to them. 
Every family informed that they can have any readings, poems and music usually respond with the same questioning statement of ‘I didn’t know we could have that’. If a Father loved Monty Python and wasn’t religious, why shouldn’t his funeral include the famous Eric Idle song but have The Lord is My Shepherd?
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The Celebrant has to take on a detective like role and look for clues around the room and coax information from all present to include in the ceremony. It’s common for families to forget vital information such as hobbies or achievements during the meeting. We usually call families the day afterwards and tell them we will do this as more information comes to mind once we've left.
Occasionally, the role of the Celebrant can also be that of a mediator if family conflicts surround the ceremony. Sadly, this happens if there are family feuds, but these shouldn’t prevent the Celebrant for gathering information from all involved about the deceased and their relevance to estranged members.
Being asked to conduct a funeral, memorial or any other kind of ceremony is an honour. The role of the Celebrant is to be humble and professional. A family have given you, a complete stranger usually, the honour of saying the last words in public about their loved one. The funeral Celebrant’s job is to help a family say goodbye and acknowledge the life and passing of a loved one, and member of society.
The greatest compliment a funeral Celebrant can have is to hear families or friends of the deceased say the person ‘would have loved that’, or ‘you obviously knew them well’ or ‘you described them perfectly’. We are the last professional person to publicly have a role to play in the story of the deceased person’s life. We always thank families for compliments, but always tell them We just said their words, as it was their memories which created the ceremony.
Cast your mind back to a funeral you have attended. What do you remember about the funeral? Unless there were specific, nobody remembers the coffin, flowers, music or transport method. Everybody usually remembers the ceremony, particularly if it stood out as a reflection of them or sadly, if it wasn’t a true reflection of them.
The role of the funeral Celebrant is to help a family say goodbye to a loved one by commemorating and acknowledging the life of their family member. It’s such a rewarding feeling to know you have helped and encouraged a family to say goodbye in a way which suited the life of their member.

Adapted from a piece by Ellie Farrell