Sunday, 20 April 2014

Naming Ceremony Traditions from Around the World



Australian Aborigine
The Wikmungkan tribe in north-eastern Australia carries out the naming ritual during the actual birth of the baby. The midwife calls out the names of all the child’s living relatives one by one. The name chosen is the one being called at the moment of the final stages of the birthing process when the placenta (or birth sac) is removed from the mother. There is a special bond between the child and the relative whose name is given. Soon after, a ritual is held to protect the baby’s health where special leaves are burnt by the mother and grandmother, with the child being held near this purifying smoke.


Buddhist
When a baby is born into a Buddhist family, monks are invited to the house to bless the baby and chant from the holy texts. Based on the exact time and date of the birth, an astrologer will draw a horoscope and inform the parents about the initial that the name should begin with; the parents will then choose a name accordingly. Within one month of birth, the baby is brought to a temple for blessing and placed in front of the statue of the Buddha. Offerings of flowers, candles and incense are made and the monk blesses the child, announcing his or her name. In some forms of Buddhism, sacred threads are tied around the baby’s wrists to welcome ‘Khwan’, a spirit that looks after babies.

Chinese
It is considered unlucky for a baby to be properly named before birth. The meaning of the name is usually personal and known only to the parents. The name could represent an aspect of nature, the environment or even mystical qualities. New-born babies sometimes get a plain, ugly or meaningless name to trick evil spirits into ignoring them. Later on, at a more notable stage in life, they are given an adult name. Although the baby’s personal name is chosen soon after the birth, the celebration takes place after 100 days have passed. The Hundred Days party is to celebrate the baby’s survival of the crucial first 3 months and guests are served with special foods and tea. All Chinese children of one generation share the same middle name and there is a cycle of 24 generation names, it can take several hundred years to go through the cycle. When the baby is a year old, another custom is carried out. The baby is offered a tray of objects relating to different professions, such as paint brush, farm tool, medicine, money, and so on. It is believed that whatever the child grasps will be his or her future profession.

Christian
Usually the baby is named and blessed after a few weeks or months following the birth. The traditions vary with each branch of the Church. Some have a baptism or christening, while others have a service of blessing and thanksgiving. There may also be a baptism as part of a confirmation service when they are older. For a christening, the family gathers in the morning at a church and the baby is dressed in a white christening gown, often passed from one generation to the next. The parents have to choose godparents who will help the child to live as a Christian and will act as guardians in the absence of the parents. The priest asks the parents to give the ‘Christian’ name they have chosen for the child. The priest then says a prayer of blessing over the water in the font and then pours it on the baby’s head, making the sign of the cross. This symbolises purification and the fresh start of a life. Then the priest calls the baby by name and welcomes him or her into the Christian Church and the community. A record of the christening or baptism is recorded in the church’s register, which was traditionally how births were documented before official records began. There is usually a celebration at home or in a hired venue, where gifts are given to the baby. Objects made out of silver, such as spoons and rattles, are considered particularly lucky.


Hindu
There are several ceremonies to do with the birth of a child in Hinduism. Before the birth, prayers are said at the temple for the child’s future health and happiness. Throughout the pregnancy the mother reads and recites from the Hindu scriptures so that they have a positive influence on the unborn baby. Soon after birth, the auspicious word ‘Aum’ is written in honey on the baby’s tongue. The exact time of birth is noted and a pundit calculates the lucky initials for the baby according to the corresponding astrological constellation. The family then has to decide on a name beginning with one of those initials. After 40 days, the baby is taken to a Hindu temple for the ‘namakarama’ or naming ceremony. The priest announces the name and says prayers for the long life, health and well-being of the baby. Blessed water is sprinkled on the baby and a few drops of ‘amrit’ (sweetened water) are put on the tongue. When the baby is about 6 months old, there is another ceremony ‘annaprasana’, when he or she is given a first taste of cooked rice. At the first birthday, the baby’s head is completely shaved for the first time, as a symbol of leaving any bad deeds from a past life behind and making a fresh start in the new life.

Humanist / SecularistToday many parents want to make new, non-religious ways of celebrating the birth of their baby. Humanists / Secularists don’t pray to a god but value the life of every human being. They have a ceremony to celebrate a new life and the love of the parents. Friends and relatives gather to offer good wishes for the child and amongst the festivities there may be readings of poetry and songs as celebration.


Inuit
The native people that live in the frozen Arctic lands in north Canada, Alaska and Greenland, hold a naming ceremony called ‘atiq’ where the baby is just a few days old. Atiq (pronounced ‘a-teek’) which means both ‘name’ and ‘spirit’, is the name of a family member who has died, usually a beloved older relative, like a grandparent. The Inuit believe in reincarnation and that the child receives the relative’s spirit, as well as his or her name. There are various ways of finding the right atiq, which include a birthmark in the same place as the departed or a dream of the dead relative while the woman is pregnant. It is also believed that a baby who cries incessantly when born will stop crying once the right atiq is given.


JapaneseBoys in Japan are given a short, simple name soon after their birth, which they use until their teens. As they approach adult status, there is a special ceremony where they are given a longer, formal name to be used by everyone outside their family. A month after birth, the baby is taken to a Shinto shrine. The priest says prayers and waves a ‘tamagushi’, made with bamboo and white paper over the baby’s head, symbolizing purity and a clean start in this life.


Jewish
The naming ceremony for Jewish boys is held on the eighth day after birth, usually together with the ritual circumcision. This is carried out at the home, at a synagogue by an official, called a mohel, or in more recent times, in a hospital by a doctor. According to tradition, only male relatives are allowed to be present when the circumcision is carried out. The baby is then welcomed into the community and his name is announced both in Hebrew and English. Jewish baby girls can be named at any reading of the Torah, but increasingly families are choosing to have a blessing at a synagogue, followed by a celebration similar to that for boys. Each parent, relatives and friends, all say prayers for the baby’s health and a happy life. There are gifts for the baby, speeches about childhood and a lavish meal for everyone.

It is also traditional to plant a cedar tree for a boy and a pine tree for a girl. Later, when the child is old enough to marry, the birth tree may be cut down to make a ‘huppah’, a cover on four poles under which the couple will marry.


Latvia
The baby’s godparents host a name-giving ceremony, or Krustaba, nine days after the birth. It is held at the parent’s home and lasts for two days. A baby girl has two godmothers and one godfather, while a boy has two godfathers and one godmother. They are chosen by the parents and are usually from among their relatives. Since it is believed that the child will inherit their godparent’s good qualities, the parents choose them with care. The ceremony begins in the morning with guests arriving with gifts for the baby and food for the feast. Guests wear their finest attire and the talk must be all on happy topics. During the actual ceremony the godparents promise to care for the child. They are also the ones that select and bestow a name upon their godchild. There is a feast with dancing and gifts are given to the baby. The godparents also prepare a suitable cradle and leave a special gift in it for their godchild.

Muslim Aqiqah
As soon as a Muslim baby is born, the father or grandfather whispers a prayer in its ear so that it is the first thing he or she hears. A child must be given a name within seven days and the parents may take suggestions from grandparents, other relatives or from the imam (priest). The names are usually chosen from the Holy Quran. Within seven days a ceremony called ‘Aqiqah’ (pronounced ‘a-kee-ka) is held, in order to thank Allah or God. During the celebration, prayers are said and the baby’s head is shaved. The hair is weighed and the family must then gives at least the same weight in gold to charity. The baby is given a taste of honey as a symbol of the sweetness of prayer. There is a feast for friends and relatives with one or two goats being killed and one-third of the meat distributed to the poor as a way of thanks. If the child is a boy, he will be circumcised usually within two weeks of his birth, although some Muslims leave this until the boy is at least four years old.

Native American
The Hopi tribe of Arizona in south-west USA, have a special naming ceremony when the baby is 20 days old. Before dawn on the day, a large dish of corn and lamb stew is cooked over an outdoor fire. Meanwhile indoors, the baby is bathed and rubbed with a corn cob, which is symbol of life for the Hopis. Then each guest presents a gift to the child and rubs cornmeal on the child’s forehead. Then just as the sun is rising the grandmother takes the baby outside and while standing on a specially made patchwork quilt, holds him or her up to the sun and announces the name. All the guests return indoors and sit on the floor on quilts. A small portion of the lamb stew is served on a plate and placed outside the door as a symbol of thanks to the earth for providing food. Everyone then shares the meal served with blue corn bread and a sweet cornmeal pudding.

Nigerian Yoruba
On the seventh day after the birth of a baby girl and on the ninth day for a boy, a name is chosen for the baby. Apart from the family name, the child is given several other names. One of the names describes the circumstances surrounding the birth, for instance, the name Idowu means ‘child born after twins’. The parents often also have a pet name that indicates what they hope for their child, such as Ayoke, meaning ‘one who is blessed’. The oldest member of the family carries out the naming ceremony. Relatives and friends attend wearing brightly coloured clothes and bring presents of money and clothing. Musicians play drums and traditional poetry is recited. The baby is given a taste of honey to symbolise the wish for a sweet life. Then the parents announce the baby name and the relatives are invited to add extra names if they wish – a Yoruba child may end with twelve or more names!

Pagan
The ancient nature-worshipping pagan tradition of ‘saining’ dates back to pre-Christian times and is held within 9 days of the child’s birth. Family and friends stand in a circle in a clearing of woodland trees. The baby’s name is spoken aloud for the first time and he or she is held up to greet the earth and the sky. After this the baby is passed around the circle to be introduced to friends and family. A tree may be planted to symbolize the new life.

Sikh
Soon after birth, a respected elder gives the baby a few drops of honey and water, while reciting the first verses of the Japji Sahib, a hymn by Guru Nanak (the founder of the faith). As soon as the mother and baby are well enough, a naming ceremony (‘Naamkaran’) is held at the gurudwara, the Sikh place of worship. There is a reading from the Sikh holy book, Siri Guru Granth Sahib where the passage is selected by opening the book at random and reading the first words of a passage on the left hand page. The first letter of the word at the beginning of this passage is taken as the first letter of the baby’s name, which is then chosen by the parents. All boys are given the same second name, ‘Singh’, meaning lion, and for all girls, the second name is ‘Kaur’, meaning princess. As a way of giving thanks for the gift of a child, the child’s parents present richly embroidered cloths, called ‘Rumalas’, to drape the holy book. Sweetened blessed water called Amrit is put on the baby’s tongue. The baby also has a tiny steel bracelet, called Kara, put on its right wrist. The circular shape symbolises God, who like the circle, has no beginning and no end. Family and friends are given ‘kara prashad’ a sweet blessed food, made with flour, sugar and clarified butter, followed by a communal meal.
Other birth and naming practices:

A new birth in Peru is celebrated by drinking Chicha, a beer made with maize. Another celebration is held when a boy has his first hair cut or a girl has her ears pierced.

In some parts of Africa one of the ceremonies involves different names being written on pieces of paper. The name is chosen from the first piece of paper that the baby touches. Some African families break a coconut and sprinkle the baby with the milk, asking God to pour blessings on the baby.

Amongst Swahili speaking Kenyans, the first or birth name called ‘jina la utotoni’ is given to babies as soon as they are born. This is chosen by an elderly relative and is usually refers to the child’s appearance, like ‘Biubwa’ which means ‘soft and smooth’. After up to 40 days, the parents and paternal grandparents choose the ‘jina la ukubwani’, or adult name, for the child.

The Akan Ghanaian naming ceremony is held seven days after the birth of a baby. The father chooses the name of a beloved relative in the hope that the child will grow up to be like the namesake.

New births in Switzerland are celebrated with apple trees being planted for the birth of a boy and nut trees for the birth of a girl.

The world is leterally your oyster. You need not be bound by any traditions and you are free (in the western world at least) to devise a naming ceremony that is very particular to you and yours. A Civil Celebrant is not restricted by religion and traditions and can help you find what best fits in with what you want.

Thanks to Paula Jones

Wedding Celebrants | How to Choose the Right One!

Many couples today want to celebrate their wedding in an outdoor setting. Be it on the beach, in a beautiful garden, or in a castle, a wedding celebrant can help make your wedding day truly special.

A wedding celebrant can make or break the tone of your wedding, so it’s important to pick the best one. 

How do you choose a wedding celebrant? Find out below:
Qualifications

wedding celebrantAsk a prospective wedding celebrant for proof of their celebrant training, preferably with a professional body like the UK Society of Celebrants, the British Humanist Association or Civil Ceremonies.

Experienced celebrants have the knowledge and resources to make your wedding ceremony a truly memorable one. There are celebrants who specialise in a certain culture or religion, so make sure to ask about the ceremonies they’ve done in the past.

Flexibility

Your wedding celebrant should be comfortable with your chosen venue. Also, make sure to ask if they agree with your wedding theme. When it comes to the ceremony, is your celebrant willing to give you the reigns or would they insist on their own programme? Better ask all these questions beforehand to ensure a smooth and hassle-free ceremony.

Other considerations:
When considering a celebrant, check to see if he has any references. Call these couples and ask about their experience with said celebrant. What did they like and didn’t like about the ceremony? Was the celebrant a good and engaging speaker? Did he/she come to the wedding on time? Make sure to ask all these questions so you can find out if the celebrant is the right one for the job. You can also contact the organisation that trained them to confirm their membership and the training they received.

A top notch wedding celebrant will guide you through the whole process. Also, they are willing to accommodate your questions and concerns and address them accordingly. Not only that, they will listen to your ideas and incorporate them with their own. After all, it’s your wedding not theirs.

Find a celebrant who has the skills to deliver a great wedding ceremony that reflects you and your partner’s personalities. Someone who will make you feel at ease and fill you with confidence so you and your partner can relax and have fun on your wedding day.


Thanks to Service Seeking.

Thursday, 17 April 2014

UK Society of Celebrants Newsletter - April 2014

Hello everyone
Mmmmmm...Chocolate.....

Welcome to this months offering and a big welcome to our New Members & Subscribers. I hope you all enjoy the upcoming long weekend eating chocolate eggs, having DIY disasters and stuck in traffic jams or perhaps officiating Wedding & Naming Ceremonies or Tutorials - many of us will experience all of the above.

Who can train with us?

If you live in the UK, we need say no more. If you are an English speaker living in an English speaking community anywhere in the world - you can train with us. We have trained and continue to train celebrants all over the English speaking world. Wherever you are from we will help you to become the best celebrant you can be.

How busy are you?
The feedback we have received from our Funeral Celebrants is that it has been an unusually quiet start to the year. Not that we are wishing ill on anyone, but the very mild weather we have been experiencing has manifested itself with lower mortality rates attributed to cold weather. On the other hand our Family Celebrants are experiencing a surge in demand, particularly in relation to the recent overdue legislative changes regarding gay marriage.

Ongoing Training
Thanks goes out to those of you who have responded to our appeal for feedback regarding our intended Regional Ongoing Training Seminars. Broadly speaking, ongoing training availability is welcomed, however, there are a number of issues that need addressing.

With the above in mind, weekend training seminars are understandably, unlikely to be well attended , although, there are 4 geographical exceptions to this with our Celebrants in the North East, North West, West Midlands & South East who appear to be universally enthusiastic and intent on attending seminars whenever they are held. Dates and locations will be forwarded to Celebrant Members in these areas when confirmed.

  • Costs - Although the Seminars would be FREE of charge - there may be a need to ask for a contibution form those attending to cover venue costs (£5-20 per day, per person)
  • Family Celebrants - due to the nature of their work, particularly in the spring and summer months, family celebrants availability at weekend seminars / workshops are hit and miss to say the least.
  • Funeral Celebrants - weekends are not usually a problem.
  • However, around 60% of our Celebrants practice both Family & Funeral Celebrancy: 25% Family Celebrancy & 15% Funeral Celebrancy.
Another option under consideration was providing Centralised Ongoing Training Seminars to be held in either Lincoln or Nottingham. This option was considered cost prohibitive for those attending with regards to potential travel and possible overnight accommodation costs.

The final option under consideration seems favourite to be the one we will run with. But first we need your feedback on the following.

Over 80% of our members have been trained by us,  utilising (via Skype) Distance Learning. This method of training is tried, tested and trusted, but more importantly familiar to most of you. Yes, there are some limitations, however, they are most often concerned with the quality of the internet connection during periods of high bandwidth demand.

Since January, our / your Tutors / Mentors have been trialing Pod Casts & Live Group Seminars over the skype network as part of their Continued Professional Development. We are delighted to inform you that the trials have been successful and as individuals we have all saved a small fortune in travel costs alone. As a result, we are redeveloping our Seminars (written last year) to make them suitable for both Pod Casts and Skype Seminars.

When compared to potential travel, accommodation, parking and food costs - a subscription to Skype is negligable. We may have found a way to make Skype Seminars FREE to our Members if we limit the numbers attending- we are just waiting on Skype to confirm the arrangements.

How will it work?
Each Member will be sent invites to Live Skype Seminars or Pod Casts by email. If a particular Seminar is of interest to you, you can register to attend. You will then need to login at the time of the event and join in. Pod Casts will be 100% FREE of any charge to those attending, however, Live Skype Seminars may require you to pay a small subscription to Skype for the privilage (Less than £7 per month - no contract plus other extras).

An Eight Way on Skype | Upto 25 Participants
The benefits of Live Skype Seminars and Pod Casts are many, but worth noting:
  • NO Travelling
  • NO Parking
  • NO Hotels
  • FREE Training
  • Interactive (with Tutors & Group Members)
  • Live
  • Segmented (Multiple 1-3 hour sessions) or Full Days (with comfort breaks)
  • Minimal Cost
  • Choice of Seminars
  • Can be saved on your computer
  • NO hassle

Please, Please, Please...

Please make your thoughts / ideas known to us here regarding ongoing training. If most or indeed all of us can benefit, we will implement it. Thank you.






The Celebrant Shop?

We have received several enquiries, particularly from our Family Celebrants regarding the supply of materials / products for their Special Ceremony Elements. There is some great stuff available online, but the best stuff seems to come from the USA and is very reasonably priced, however, the cost of postage / shipping / duty and the inherrant excessive delivery times is not acceptable to an individual.

The following are examples of what we would keep in stock to suit different price points ie Gold or Platinum or Diamond standard for each product and each including instructions, script and all materials required. The different standards reflect the meterials used and the level of personalisation required.

All prices would be similar to what you could expect to pay for each component online, except they would all be in one place - just for our Members and delivery will be free.

Until now, we have never recommended any particular supplier of products as they are so wide and varied. Furthermore, many of our Family Celebrants are quite creative with their hands but others (like me) are good with a hammer and screwdriver but little else on the creative front.

With a view to plugging this gap, we are looking at two options:
  1. Provide a Celebrant Kit - to all New Family Celebrants Trainees ( at cost - added to course fee - optional)
  2. Provide an Online Store to supply Kits and consumables for Family Celebrant Members which would be accessible from and part of the  UKSOC  website
Kits

Consumables

  • Parchments
  • Ribbons, Wraps, Rope
  • Candles / Spills
  • Vases (Unity Sand)
  • Wine Box (Singles)
  • Besoms / Brooms
  • Memory Books

Miscellaneous

  • Portable lecturns
  • Presentation Folders
  • Umbrellas
  • Blutooth PA Systems
  • Wireless Speakers
  • Wireless Mics
  • Sony Xperia Tablet (For Celebrants)


Any sensible suggestions you have for a Celebrant Shop will be warmly welcomed. Just drop us a line here.

NB* Please remember that there are numerous celebrant related articles on our blog - be sure to follow or subscribe to the Civil Celebrant here.



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Well that is it for this month, thanks for reading this far.
Stay Safe & Be Well!

James Convery
CEO-Lead Tutor